How to find friends in a new community

Moving to a new town or state can be lonely for children as well as adults. Losing friends because of a move can be hard, and finding new ones isn’t always a snap! Kids generally meet other kids easily, but establishing new connections doesn’t often happen overnight.

It is important for children, especially teens, to be aware of their need to meet friends and establish healthy relationships. If children are struggling it is important to recognize their feelings of loneliness and talk about what can be done to build new relationships. This can be an opportunity to discuss how to recognize supportive respectful friends.

Here are a few things to do with children to help them explore a new community and make friends.

1. Go to the public library and take out some books to read together. Library staff are knowledgeable about the community and can often act as a guide and offer resource materials.
2. Visit parks and playgrounds that are safe.
3. Go to the city or town office and learn about resources such as a recreation department that offers programs for kids and adults.
4. Read local newspapers for information on clubs and organizations. Look for a Newcomers or Mothers’ Club.
5. Attend church services until you find one that you like. Church congregations often have social events and gatherings and are generally welcoming, even if you are not a "religious" person.
6. Attend local concerts, farmers markets, parades, and special events.
7. Locate a local museum or historical society and learn about the history of your new town or city.
8. Volunteer at an animal shelter or some other organization in which you have some interest. Is there a community theater looking for volunteers?
9. Join a gym or YMCA that has childcare or programs for kids.
10. Make a point to meet your neighbors.
11. For teens, encourage them to join a club at school or volunteer in a local organization that involves activities and interests that they can relate to.

Maine Warmers offers comfort gifts for kids or adults who may need a little TLC during a move. These Bears, Owls, Penguins, and other creatures bring comforting companionship to young people who may be feeling a bit isolated or lonely.
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